If your spouse isnt calling you back its a real problem, right? Many people have been in the situation where they have left a ton of messages on their ex's answer machine and they just dont call. How can you begin to win back your ex if you cant even communicate?
Well there are some things you can say and do that will trigger a response and will get your ex to call you back. I will give you one good example and one bad example so you can see it clearly.
What not to say:Never ever use the 'Emergency'."Hi Carla its John. Can you call me quick its an emergency and we have to talk"!Oh my gosh, you sound like a bunny boiler or a deperado, give it up. Instead use something that will trigger curiosity and self interest. An age old technique understood by few but used by tons of shrinks to get feelings stored way down in peoples hearts.
Try this: Curiosity combined with Self Interest"Hi Carla. It's John. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person for what you have done for me and for lifting that weight off my shoulders".
Before you know your phone is going to be ringing with your ex wondering "what did I do"? "What does he appreciate about being dumped"? "What weight did I lift off him"? None of the Curiosity or Self Interest techniques make you sound weird or needy. They simply allow communication lines to be opened back up and they give you chance to move things forward.
But be warned! Unless you have some more of the game plan ready for the
next steps, you could be doing more harm than good by getting back with your ex or by getting them to return your call.
